A Woman's Touch

(Background - 'Love Supreme'.. the Artist - Alonzo Adams)

Thinking back to around the time I wrote this piece, I was still married but only a few months away from my wife and I separating. The piece is pretty much my way of saying... "This is what I need from you." but it seem to fall upon deaf's ear. We've gone through a rough two years up to this point and there were choices made on both our parts that simply iced any attempt to mend any broken links to what I (maybe her too) would be a union that will  last to the end of time. => The dreamer in me talking. 

Even through some rough patches I've always felt like there's nothing we can't overcome if we truly love one another. But only if we both had a mind to persevere. That we both would see all the good that comes from allowing our love to conquer what every marriage has to deal with... LIFE!

Well, I simply wanted express the vision behind the words... (divorced since February 2009) and the dreamer in me still exist  and I look forward to a day I'll be able to look that 'Beautiful Black Woman' I'll someday come home to and yes, greet her with ~open arms~ a fluttering heart and a big grin... followed by a "It's so good to see that pretty face of yours! I love you baby!"

Why do women do this? Flashback: One year ago

Random share: Why do women do this?

Recently I saw my new neighbor (my 9-year son and I are in 100% agreement that she is one ‘pretty lady’) waltz out seconds after us as we were about to get into the car. We both did a double-take, and it slowed down my stride. I kept my thoughts to myself, “Whoa! Where is she going looking so incredibly good in that body length form fitting sundress?”   Well, I snapped out of it to do the gentlemanly ‘Hi’ as she beat us both into our cars while we watched her drive off waving. I’m shaking my head, Wow!

Well, later that night our paths crossed again. Returning to my apartment from taking out the trash and behold, there she was! We meet and greet in the parking lot (this seems to be the trend lately), but this time around she’s wearing jeans. We traded words and of course, I’m a guy who can’t (an in most cases won’t) pass up giving a well deserved compliment. I complimented her on her dress from earlier in the day. She goes on to tell me that she went to a birthday celebration for a family member and that she only wore the outfit she had on earlier because her Ex was going to be there. Shaking my head and thinking whatever went wrong with that, she obviously want him to think twice about what he’s missing. She explained that she was on her way back to her family’s place but wanted to get out of that sundress, I take it served its purpose and now she can go back to the normal wear. Laughing on the inside and thinking, “That’s just wrong!” You got me missing you and I don’t even know you yet!

Well, the conversation concluded around the subject of my 9-year old son and her nephew who’s a year older dealing with some similar issues that led to her asking for my phone number, Huh?  Not that I’m oppose to ‘the pretty lady from upstairs’ having my number, I just need to know will the Ex be a problem down the road. <= bonus share I’m smiling! Now back to the topic.

I have my own conclusions to why women do this but I want to hear from the ladies; men please chime in as well, I’m sure you have a story or two about seeing your Ex in ‘Woo woo woo’ mode, looking incredibly gorgeous.

Why do you insist on torturing your Ex if he is your Ex?  In other words you put in an extra effort to look extremely good when you know you will be in his presence again?    

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<= Bonus share... Mm! Mm! Mm!

Yeah I got a thing for me some Kerry Washington!  

Happy Mother's Day (Reflection)

Flashback!!!

I can't remember what age I was but it was somewhere between 5-7 years old when I first looked at a woman and was Wowed! I looked at her and thought, she is the most beautiful lady in the world... so I told her, "Momma, you are beautiful and I'm going to marry you some day!" HEY! I didn't know any better about what I was saying or expressing. Well, anyways... She laughed at me and told me to get out of here with that mess with a smile.
(photo: Mom with youngest brother, Gerry)


Fast forward to present state of mine;

As I reflect on a thousand and one reasons to join in the celebration of mothers around the world, today I chose to celebrate it from the moment, that moment I looked into the eyes of a 'Beautiful Black Woman' and thought she was the 'Most Beautiful 'Gift from God' to the black man. Okay, so it wasn't that deep of a thought when I was kid but HEY! In some ways it was because any woman I found myself 'Wooing' was in a lot of ways a reflection of the first beautiful black queen I acknowledged as a little kid, my Mom.

Reflecting again on that day, I can remember also thinking... 'My dad is one lucky guy to be married to such a pretty lady...'

Present state of mine;

From that point on I think my ideal woman was beginning to take shape because I observed my mother in the light of 'this is how a woman should carry herself and do things'. For starters, she's going to be a beautiful black queen who like my mother is God fearing, nurturing, selfless in her acts, can cook, speaks her mind and what is spoken is backed with words of wisdom, respectful, supportive, forgiving, and the list goes on... <= Hmmm! A lot of qualities I feel are in me... Thank you Mom for the examples you've set!

BTW, when I say Beautiful Black Woman/ Queen do know that it's not only defined by the initial physical attraction but what follows when I get to know the beauty within. I've seen and still see those moments when beautiful black women => physically! Turn unattractive really quick by what's lacking in the way they carry themselves, the things they say and or do. <= to the young ladies of today Hint hint! Carry yourself like a lady, speak like a lady and watch how much more you'll be respected and yes, gain the right kind of attention that will be healthy in you finding Mr Right.


In closing, not only do I want to wish my Mom a Happy Mother's Day I too like to extend a Happy Mother's Day wish out to my ex wife and mother to our Handsome Young Prince. She's too has displayed...

'A Love Supreme, A Mother's Love'

Happy Mother's Day Jamie

Thank you for being a beautiful mom to our son.