Thursday, June 21, 2012

'Hurdling 42s On My 45th'

"When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." Erma Bombeck

"For as long as God grants me breath to breathe and the strength to get up and go. I'll always be a 'dream chaser' and live in the moment. Life is filled with it's ups and downs, it's highs and lows so I've made the conscious decision to see the blessings, be it during the good times but especially through my storms. I won't allow myself to feast on a negative train of thought because it will surely be a detriment to my ability to positively move forward in a pursuit to achieving the sometimes unthinkable." 
Tee Reese Jr.

'Hurdling 42s on My 45th'

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Hold up! Tone it down and let's talk...

Here is a nice article that was recently shared with me when I got to

'Huffin' and Puffin'... 
I'm gon' blow your house down!!! 

Yep, I got all defensive when I felt wrongly accused and the topic of discussion got lost in that 'Fired up moment'.

Thanks to the lovely lady who calmly told me to take a moment and we're talk later. We all I'm sure have had countless moments whether it's a 'lovers quarrel' between spouse/significant other, siblings, friends, co-workers, etc., where nothing get's accomplished in trying to have a healthy conversation.

Take a moment and read and share it. We all can learn from this, I'm definitely going to work on this

By Nathan Cobb, Ph.D.
Have you and your spouse ever found yourselves in an endless-loop argument that does not go anywhere? You say one thing and then your spouse counters with an opposite statement. You repeat what you said the first time, and then your spouse repeats what he or she already said. You present additional evidence to back up your side, and then your spouse shoots it down or presents counter evidence.
These back-and-forth debates can go on for a long time. You both end up feeling drained, frustrated, unheard and angry. And nothing has gotten resolved.
Does this sound familiar?
Ever wonder how to stop arguing in such a pointless way?
Here's one way. Whenever you find yourself in this endless loop, stop making statements, and, instead, begin to ask some questions.
One of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself or your spouse is, "What do you want to get out of this dialogue? What is your desired outcome here?"
If you ask your spouse this question, you will probably get stunned silence at first. When I ask couples this question, often neither partner really knows the answer until they start to dig deep and think about what they want.
We often don't stop and think about what outcome we want. We just react. We get so caught up in the details of the argument - in the seduction of being right - that we lose sight of the issue.
This may sound harsh, and it isn't my intention to sound harsh, but at the end of the day it often doesn't matter what you said a week ago or what you thought you said or what you heard your partner say or what you thought you heard. You and your spouse are different people and you hear and see different things depending on your frame of mind at the time, your circumstances, your biology and your history of interactions with others.
What really matters is the issue. What is it that you want to accomplish out of the discussion you are having now? What do you want to achieve?
Once you identify your wants, then the next step is to think about why that "want" matters to you, not for the reason that you have to justify your wants, but so that your spouse can understand you better.
If it can be hard for you to know what you want out of the discussion, then imagine how hard it is for your partner to guess what you want. Sometimes we forget that our spouse cannot read our minds. We cling to the wish that someone would intuitively know us and understand us and be able to meet our needs without our having to put much effort into defining ourselves.
It takes conscious thought and reflection to know what you want and to articulate why you want it or why it matters to you. Once you do begin to think about and articulate your answers to these questions, however, your dialogue will become more productive. You'll find it easier to avoid wasting time in reactive debates.
Instead, you'll be able to pinpoint the real issue and come away from the discussion with a better understanding of each other, which, in turn, will help you work better as a team to accomplish your relationship goals.
So the next time you find yourself in a circular argument on the road to nowhere, stop and re-orient yourself by asking, "What do you want out of this discussion?" and "Why is that important to you?"

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Doing my part... Baseball season is here for Little Tee

The crack of the bat.. has become music to my ears.. and I don't even like the game of baseball, yet I'm excited because my son is playing and learning how to be a baseball player. I think I may have been more excited than him when the season started. Why? Because I'm glad to see he has that something that will light a fire underneath his feet to get up and get out and do something physical... even though baseball has a lot of standing around, picking at the grass while you wait in anticipation of being in the mix of the ball in play. He's getting his opportunities to keep it physical.. the way dad likes it! 

Terry's triple in first game of the season

Wednesday April 11, 2012 opened the 2012 Parks and Recreation Bronco League (ages 11/12) season.. although the 1st Inning was a disaster for the Phillies (Lil Tee's team) 0-8 after one. They managed to get going in the bottom second and through the next few innings. The Phillies managed to make moves and score run after run to comeback and win it 15-10. Congrats to the Phillies! Win or lose, we as parents and coaches are doing our part of being excited, cheering them on and supporting the efforts put forth through the ups and downs of playing the game of baseball. We seem to have a good group of kids that do look to have been around the game a little bit so it looks like we're (Phillies) off to a much better start then last year when Lil Tee played for the same coach in the 9-10 year old league where they lost all but one game. So there was a lot of "...great effort guys!" and not a whole lot of talk about the win/ lose columns. 

I don't know much about the game of baseball beyond the basics, but doing what I can to learn the necessary to be an instrumental piece to the puzzle to help preach and teach what the coach is trying to get Lil Tee and his teammates to do. Oh yeah, did I mention I'm not even a fan of the game?.. too slow and boring, But! because Lil Tee has taken an interest in it beyond it being an outdoor physical activity. We've gone to the park on countless occasions during his off time and now that the season is here, we're still going to the park, just the 'two of us'. His team only meets once or twice in a week, which will definitely slow his learning curve for gaining the necessary tools to step it up when he's playing in a more intense league... something we (his mother and I) are looking into. As the season neared.. the park we once had to ourselves everyday to throw, catch, bat, run the bases... is now the practice home for another league that is clearly much more advanced then Parks and Recreation.

As a father, a coach (in another sport), it's in me to want to learn the necessary to do what I can to aid in my son's development. On his non-practice days we will still go to the park, and if there's a conflict of using the field, we'll throw outside the fence for awhile and sit and watch an ages 9-10 team that would put on a clinic against his 11-12 year old age Parks and Rec team... I'm dead serious! as I laugh... A CLINIC I tell ya!

Advanced League Play (ages 9-10) Lil Tee and I sat and watched

Today we got to the park and had the field for 30 minutes before an ages 11-12 group came out to practice... So we cleared the field and took a seat to watch... And yes, I'm taking notes and picking up on some great drills to do with the Phillies #1 Slugger/ RBI king/ 3rd Baseman/ Relief Pitcher ~> my handsome young prince Terry Reese III aka Lil Tee :-) 

Simply loving the journey I tread with my son... Doing my part to be an example, being supportive, and as I continue his growth in becoming his own man... I know that my influence will stay with him. So, I best be sure a lot of what he gets from me is to make him a better man, a better person than myself. Love that little guy.

A proud dad I be! And elated to be 'Doing My Part'. 
Let's go Lil Tee, Let's Go Phillies!

Terry first at bat of season. A single/ RBI.

Sunday, April 1, 2012

The Look

'The Look'
In the Reese household, a priceless father and son moment was made today after we finished a day at the baseball park practicing on a tennis court. Why, the tennis courts? There was a team practice for another youth league team that seems to show up the same time lately when I take him over to this particular park we had no issues for months. Well, Lil man was suppose to practice yesterday with his team but practice was cancelled for the 3rd time (rain or a wet field from rain the prior day). So, it was a 3 person show, Lil Tee, his mom and myself making sure he's staying baseball ready. His team has had only 1 actual practice together and they will have their first game in 9 days. Shaking my head! I think the coach needs to be more resourceful and come up with alternatives in order to come together as one. That's another story... on to reason for this post!

After we left the park, we stopped by the closest grocery store to buy his mom some flowers... <~ teaching moment. She left before we did because she was hit by the ball thrown to her from Lil Tee. Although it was an accident, it shows concerns and the flowers serve as a cheer up and hope you're feeling better soon. We checked in on her, he gave her the flowers, said some kind words and gave her a hug. She smiled, and showed her appreciation for the thoughtfulness. We then left and had one more stop, that was to get gas and restock on water from Sam's Club.

The look in the picture is 'the look' my son had on his face when we walked into Sam's Club to get water and treat ourselves to 1 slice of pizza. Our treat for doing a much better job of eating well portioned meals, more fruits and veggies and his showing up as an athlete all week in all his workout challenges from baseball practice, running at the track, and the Energize program (3 times a week, this program meets to teach families how to eat better, grocery shop, exercise, etc).

If you haven't been to Sam's Club before (It's members only shop til you drop, bulk size products, etc.), at the entrance is someone waiting to check for your membership card and on this particular day. There was a young lady at the door who greeted us and after we walked passed her.. Little Tee, turned to me with 'the look' no words needed that said... "DAD! Did You See Her!!!" I'm in 100% agreement with his look and said, "She's very pretty." Little Tee, still with 'the look' on his face nodded his head in agreement and mumbled, "Uh huh!"

If you've read any of my previous post... you know I'm all about 'I'm a Man' who enjoys doing his man things.. Well, nothing makes a Manly Man more happy then knowing his seed, his handsome young prince shows an appreciation for a beautiful girl, young lady, WOMAN!

Priceless was the moment made when I could share with my son, the same appreciation with 'The Look'... no words needed! 

That's a ~Tiger Woods fist pump moment~ 

After quickly finding what I needed, I purchased and we made our way over to the snack bar and order our slice of pizza. We sat and ate, and before we left... there was a shifting of position of those standing at the entrance and exist. The pretty young lady is now at the exit. Too funny was 'the look' Lil Tee had when he noticed her standing there. Another teaching moment ~> We approached her with receipt in hand to have her check it off. She kindly greeted us and I replied appropriately but threw in the extra, "My son and I would like you to know.. we both think you're beautiful." She shared the biggest smile as she received the compliment in a well mannered way. 

Priceless was 'The Look' or shall I say 'The Grin' Little Tee had on his face as we left the store. 

Friday, March 23, 2012

A Hurdler For Life

A ‘Hurdler For Life’

Precious is the very moment you awaken to a new day…
Rejoice in it with a mindset that walls are coming down
So that you may continue to move forward
In God’s will for you.

As a hurdler on the track,
I’ve found that it’s been my most treasured ‘gift’ from God
Because it’s been what has given me an understanding of how
We all should take on Life’s many challenges.
Challenges we can overcome through moving forward
Through persistence and perseverance backed by keeping the faith!

Like a hurdler,
Let no obstacle stand in your way
Take it head on
And see what God has in store for you…

Terry Reese Jr.
June 2008

Monday, March 12, 2012

I'm A Manly Man - Part II

Yes, I’m that guy… A Manly Man – Part II

I’m a person who actually likes to play my role and see others do so as well. What I mean… you’re a man, be a man, you’re a woman it is quite okay to BE A WOMAN. For all those ladies out that there who actually care to be with a man or have a man. Let your man feel like a man. Yeah, I know… you are super woman and you can do it all. Whatever the reasons or circumstances you found yourself in and had to and now carry the mindset “I’m Miss Independent… I don’t need a man to do a thing me”. Well, newsflash… There is still a few of us who actually like to treat you like a lady, do things for you, or be seen by you as a manly man doing some manly man things.  Speaking for myself, it’s nice that you can do it all… but it’s even nicer when you’re in a situation that will allow for a man to step up and do those things that make a man feel like he’s your hero. I know when I can; I enjoy doing my part as a Manly man doing manly things from the simple to the complex.

Enough of that before I take this short share down another path. Some months ago (October 2011) I did a blog titled ‘Yes, I’m that guy… A Manly Man’  This past Friday, I found myself throwing on my ‘I’m a man, doing manly man things t-shirt. It don’t matter how simple the task was… it just felt good to feel like I was in that ‘Man’s man world’ of telling a lady... “Please step back. I got this!”

Its Friday, March 9th, I made a call around noon to Advance Auto to see if the part I order had come in. It was confirmed it was in the store ready for pick-up, so I immediately made my way over to pick it up.
Back in October of 2011 I had to replace my thermostat and it resolved my running hot issue but after a few months I noticed that my overflow tank was leaking. I had it checked out to see if the leak was in another location but it all seem to stem from the overflow tank. So I finally took the time to find the part needed so that I can ‘Do It Myself!’

That’s right… ‘Do It Myself!’ I’ve already changed into my ‘let’s go to work doing a manly man thing’ wear and upon returning home, I parked the car in a ‘this looks like a good spot to do my man thing’ place… Popped the hood, got my tools out the trunk and went to work. So what if the task was easy as 1, 2, and 3… the appearance of being seen under the hood like I knew what the heck I was doing felt… MANLY!

This is when I was feeling really MANLY! While in the middle of removing the old overflow tank and putting in the new overflow tank, I get a phone call from my ex-wife. She called to let me know she had made it home and that she wanted to confirm what time I would be picking our son up to go see ‘John Carter’ the IMAX viewing. (It’s opening day and when I can, I’m taking little me to the movies with me. FYI, we enjoyed it!) Without really thinking about the task at hand, I told her that I would be picking him up as soon as I had finished doing my Manly Man thing of replacing my overflow tank. She responded in a manner that almost had me standing in my ‘I’m Superman’ pose… Laughing at myself but HEY! Her response was, “You’re doing it yourself!?! Wow!”  Those few words from a woman made this Manly Man feel like “I’m a man, doing a manly man thing.’ ~beats chest~

Its 3 days later and I haven’t had any leaking problems and the temperature gauge is hovering at the normal needle level.


Wednesday, February 29, 2012

The First Time I Laid Eyes On You

Flashback to a time, that feels just like yesterday. 
The time I'm referring to?
That first time feeling of laying eyes on one beautiful sight
And that initial response was.. 
an 'awe' moment
that kept you from 
Doing what was in your mind to do. 

Here's a piece I wrote way back in 2001...
Love that feeling.. and enjoyed writing this.

Matters of the Heart

‘First Time I Laid Eyes On You’
African Beauty by Hendrick Gill
 The first time I laid eyes on you
I didn’t know what to do.
In a panic, I passed you by,
My heart skipped a beat when I realized
I didn’t even say ‘hi’.
Although I didn’t speak, I couldn’t resist
The urge to turn and look back
At the ‘Beauty I just missed.

When I look back to the first time I laid eyes on you,
You were sitting on a plane in row number two.
I immediately took my seat in row number three,
Because your pretty face was a treat for me to see.
In one glance,
My mind, body, and soul went into a trance,
Forever held captive to the beauty I just seen.
Now, at a lost for words and not sure of what the future holds,
I regrettably passed on my only chance
To take you by the hand and lead you in a dance,
A dance I felt could have been ‘love at first sight’.

The first time I laid eyes on you,
I had no clue
Dreams do come true.
Because to my surprise!
Our paths have crossed once again,
But this time, I will know where to begin.

Beautiful Lady,
“Let’s give ‘love’ a chance, may I have the last dance?”

Terry Reese Jr.
(C) 2001